I am not someone who hates their disability, wow revolutionary! In fact, I know of many people who don’t see their disability as being a negative thing and I know of many who choose to embrace it rather than feel burdened by it, I’d like to think that I’m one of those people.
Sure, I’d be one of the first to admit that it’s not all plain sailing. Living with sight loss can be frustrating at times, there are constant hurdles, barriers, challenges and misconceptions that need to be faced. For me, it’s also a grieving process and I do sometimes find myself mourning the loss of my sight that’s deteriorating everyday. It can be hard, I would never deny that but (and yes, there’s always a but even when it comes to disability), on a daily basis, I look at the positives of living with a disability. I try to focus on what I love about it rather than thinking and dwelling on the negatives. After all, a lifetime is a long time to dislike something about yourself.
So, with this in mind, I thought I’d share 5 reasons as to why I love my disability and why I don’t wake up feeling controlled by it everyday.
It makes me stronger
As I said before, living with a disability can be hard, I can’t deny that in any way. But the fact that it’s hard doesn’t mean that I’m going to sit around moping all day, every day. If something, I do the complete opposite. Over the years, I’ve had to face a countless amount of challenges due to living with sight loss, I have to fight in order to get the support I’m entitled to whether it be train assistance, mobility training or materials to be adapted into accessible formats.
I believe that overcoming the hurdles that I have to face does make me stronger as a person and that is something that makes me love my vision impairment.
It allows me to help others
Since starting this blog, a few people have told me that my posts have helped them in some way, whether it be in terms of gaining a better understanding of sight loss or to help someone realise that they’re not alone. To me, helping others who might be in a similar situation is such a rewarding feeling.
I know how isolating it can be to live with sight loss, I know how lonely it can feel when you walk into a room full of people, not knowing how many are there, not knowing if you know anyone who’s there, not knowing if anyone’s looking or waving at you. I know how it feels to be judged when out walking with a cane and I know how some people’s judgements and preconceived ideas can hurt and how frustrating they can be to hear at times. Experiencing all those things drives me to help others who might be in a similar situation and being in the position that I am allows me to let others know that they’re not alone, that it’s not all bad and that feeling of isolation can often go away when you have the right people and support around you.
Some people might think that I would lead a happier and more positive life if I wasn’t living with a vision impairment, I don’t necessarily believe that and of course, we will never know if it’s true or not. As I’ve said many times, living with sight loss can be negative but it’s also brought a lot of positivity into my life.
In fact, I think that living with a disability drives me more to maintain a positive mindset and approach my life in a positive way. I want to show people that although it can be hard, it is possible to lead a happy and positive life.
I have a lot of things to be grateful for when it comes to my disability. It’s allowed me to meet some great people and it gives me the opportunity to share my experiences and attempt to tackle misconceptions and help others in a similar situation, something that I love to do.
I can’t judge others by their appearance
Let’s face it, we live in a world where unfortunately people will judge others in terms of their appearance but as a visually impaired person, I can’t do that. It’s one of the reasons why I love my vision impairment because it allows me to get to know a person for who they really are. It deprives me from the opportunity to make snap decisions about people based on the way they look and I like that aspect. Sure, I guess it would be nice to have an inkling about what someone looks like sometimes but I’m glad about the fact that I judge people in terms of their personality and not in terms of their appearance.
It allows me to educate others
Whether it be by writing posts for my blog, writing for other websites or just talking to people who I meet in my day-to-day life, living with a disability allows me to educate others on the subject and it gives me the opportunity to tackle the misconceptions that surround it. I love that aspect of it and it’s rewarding to hear when people tell me that they’ve learned something from what I have to say. I love the fact that I can educate others and that some can be enlightened from what I write.
I have a lot of reasons to dislike my disability but I also have a lot of reasons to love it and that’s what I try my best to focus on. I could go on and on about the things I like about being visually impaired and in my eyes, that’s such a good thing.
My disability is a part of me whether I like it or not and yes, there are times when I don’t like it but as I’ve said throughout this post, there are many reasons why I love it. Although I am disabled and I do get frustrated by it sometimes, I feel able. I’m able to be happy, I’m able to be positive, I’m able to achieve things and to be successful, I’m able to live my life in the most normal way that I possibly can.
There is no cure for my vision impairment, I’m ok about that, I have been for years. I don’t wake up everyday wishing that my life was different, wishing that there was something that could be done. Instead, I choose to embrace the life that I have been given and I do my best to approach it in the most normal and positive way I can. I choose to focus on the positives that my disability brings into my life and although I have my moments of sadness, anger and grief, I have a lot of things to be thankful for and I try my best to embrace those things.
Do you live with a disability? If so, what are some things that you love about it? I would love to hear from you.