As I’ve mentioned many a times on my blog, sight loss can be a long, hard journey full of hurdles and challenges that need to be overcome. But, if you’re a regular reader of mine then you’ll know how determined I am to focus on the positive aspects and to shed light on the negativity that comes alongside living with a vision impairment.
When I wake up in the mornings, I go about my day just like anyone else would, I try not to dwell or focus too much on the fact that a glimpse of my little remaining vision is slipping away from me everyday, I just want to live my life as positively as I can so I tend to push that thought into the back of my mind. But sometimes, this isn’t always the easiest of things to do and I can’t deny that I struggle sometimes, as I’m sure everyone does. But, I’ve been thinking lately about the things that help me through those slightly more difficult times when my vision impairment decides to make more impact than it usually does.
I’m not writing this post to be negative, I’m writing it to highlight the fact that there are things that can be done to overcome some barriers and to make things seem better during difficult times. It took me a while to note the fact that it’s ok to feel sad or burdened by sight loss, it’s a grieving process and it takes a different amount of time for each person to come to terms with it, everyone accepts it in their own time and in their own way.
Here are just a few things I do when my vision impairment gets a little too much.
Remind myself that I’m not alone
A bit of a cheesy statement? Maybe, but cheesy is true, right? I used to suffer a lot from long spells of feeling isolated and lonely due to my vision impairment and it wasn’t until i started my blog and began becoming more active on social media that I realised that there is a whole community of people out there who are experiencing similar issues, people who know what it feels like. I’ve now discovered a lovely community of people who are all so positive and passionate about helping each other. A community that should never be underestimated. I now have people who I can talk to openly about sight loss and how it affects me. Even when I don’t want to talk, it’s comforting to know that community of people is there and that there are many people who might be feeling the same as I am.
As I said, the community of people out there who are ready to listen is incredible, I always find comfort when talking to my friends who are also visually impaired and who are aware of the struggles that come alongside it. It’s also comforting to know that there are also many professionals out there who are willing to help and provide a listening ear and to give advice. I recently reached out to someone to talk about some of the things I was finding difficult, something I don’t want to get into on my blog at the moment but taking that step was so important for me and helped in more ways than I thought it ever would.
Think about the positives
This can be hard sometimes, I know from my own experience. It can be hard to find positivity in the midst of grief, sadness and anger but even if there’s just a small glimpse of positivity, I try my best to hold on to it and focus on that. I know that there are many negatives that come alongside being visually impaired but I’ve also discovered many positives and although it’s easy to lose sight of those sometimes, they’re always there to focus on.
I feel like most people have a specific activity that they find comforting, wether it be going for a walk, listening to music, spending time with family and friends and so on. I enjoy doing all of the above but if I find myself struggling and wanting to get my thoughts and feelings out of my system, most often than not I’ll turn to writing. Not necessarily blogging, just opening a blank document and typing away at the keyboard. I find it’s often the best way for me to express what I’m feeling and I find a lot of comfort within it.
Acknowledge and accept the fact that I’m struggling
When I’m struggling, it can often be hard not to get frustrated by certain things or not to let the difficulty of the situation get too much. As I’ve grown up, I’ve realised the importance of recognising and acknowledging the fact that I’m struggling, I find that accepting this fact can bring light into the situation as it allows me to find the best ways of dealing with it and working towards a more positive and happier mindset once again.
I guess that in a way, all of the above help in terms of making sense of the situation I’m in, the struggles I face and the constant hurdles I have to overcome. I know that there will always be people there to support me, those who will listen to my long rambles without any judgement and this to me, is so incredibly valuable. I find that doing all the things I mentioned in this post helps me to challenge the negativity, they all give me forms of motivation to face and deal with the struggles and I find that they are what help me to stay positive.
What helps you when you’re struggling with something in your life? Let me know as I’d love to hear from you.