• My love/hate relationship with blogging
  • My love/hate relationship with blogging

    Blogging, isn’t it such a wonderful thing? It’s been a hobby I’ve loved for over two years now and I absolutely love sitting down and writing a new post, it’s a part of who I am now as cheesy as that may sound.

    My love / hate relationship with blogging: A photo of my macbook with miscellaneous beauty products next to it

    However, it’s not all plain sailing and there are times where I wonder and ask myself, why am I doing this? Is it all worth it? Of course the answer is always yes, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever decided to do but that doesn’t mean that those questions don’t arise from time to time.

    There are so many pros to blogging and this whole blogging community that we’re a part of but let’s not forget that there are also cons as I’m sure there is to everything in this world, nothing can ever be perfect and that’s just life.

    So the reason I’m writing today’s post is to highlight some of these pros and cons, to ponder over the amazing aspects to blogging but to also discuss why it’s not so great at times. Something a little different I guess but I hope you enjoy reading nonetheless.

    As I’ve mentioned many a times before on my blog, it all started back in April 2015 when I was in my first year of sixth form, a year that wasn’t going so good for me. I created my blog with an overwhelming sense of excitement, it would be an opportunity for me to create a platform, to share my thoughts and feelings with the world and to connect with other people out there. I guess I saw it as my escape from everything that was going on in my day-to-day life.

    And I was right, it was my escape, a place for me to rant and ramble on about everything I found difficult but also a place for me to share my passions, communicate with other people without a feeling of instant judgement, it was something to focus on which didn’t consist of schoolwork and the stresses that came along with it.

    It allowed me to meet amazing people, it still does. People I soon considered to be close friends of mine. I know everyone says to be cautious of who you talk to online and I was and still am, I promise. But creating my own blog allowed me to connect with other bloggers, my best friend being one of them. Someone who is now one of the most important people in my life, cheesy right? But this is honestly one of the biggest pros of starting this blog and that to me is something I never imagined to happen.

    A photo of my macbook

    If you’ve been around for a while then you’ll know that I took a two and a half month break from blogging this year, this was due to lack of inspiration, motivation, ideas and the confidence in my blog. It was a break I never thought I’d take but during that time I knew it was what I needed. I fell out of love with blogging, not feeling confident in the things I was writing and came to the conclusion that there was no point in stressing over the fact that I wasn’t able to write, taking that break was important for me and I definitely think it’s a healthy thing for every blogger to do if they feel like things get too much at times. It’s ok to take time out and I feel like my love for blogging has increased so much since getting back into writing and expressing my love for it once more.

    Some of the cons? Perfection, we all chase it right? I find this is even more true in the world of blogging that we all immerse ourselves within. Everyone has a blogger who they look up to, they turn to for inspiration and motivation, you  know, that blogger who’s already created their own success story. Although reading others’ posts and content is a great source of inspiration, it can be somewhat dangerous (blogging wise) because do you know what else exists? Comparison. We’ve all compared ourselves to someone at some point in our lives, there’s no point in denying it but I feel with the ever-growing success of social media we can’t escape the urge to compare ourselves to others. I can’t deny that I’ve fallen into this trap many times before.

    Even if you don’t mean to, you undoubtedly find yourself comparing yourself to others, as I’ve said before, these are the people who’ve already built on their success, they’ve been blogging for years and worked hard to achieve what is now their incredible platform or business. The comparison is unfair since they have been working on their platforms for years but we seem to forget that. I bet every single blogger reading this have looked at another person’s blog at some point and thought to themselves “I wish I had a blog as successful as them”, “I hope I can build my blog to be as good as her’s some day.” Am I right?

    The blogging world is a competitive one, with someone, somewhere creating a blog of their own everyday and trying to make it as the next big blogger who will be showered with PR packages and invitations to fancy events, the truth? That just won’t happen, not for a while anyway. We all need to start blogging for the right reasons, not to become popular or successful, yes of course it’s always nice to receive a lovely comment supporting your work or being recognised by a brand or fellow blogger who you love but these shouldn’t be the reasons for starting  a blog. We should create our own success stories, not attempt to follow in the footsteps of someone else’s.

    Again, referring to the competitiveness of the blogging world, receiving new readers, followers, stats is one of the most difficult things in my opinion. Blogging isn’t about numbers, I’ve always believed that and always vouched for it but everyone appreciates a supportive comment or a new follower, it goes to show that someone appreciates and admires their work, you can disagree if you wish but this is just my belief. I appreciate all the support I receive on my blog, every like, comment, share, follower, everything, I just appreciate so much. I can’t deny it gets hard/frustrating at times though, when I work hard on a post and don’t seem to receive much feedback. I understand that everyone has different interests, they have their own lives to live therefore not having much time to read blog posts or give feedback on them but I guess it can be disheartening for bloggers when they put so much effort into writing a post, taking and editing photos, promoting that post and not receive the stats or feedback they desired. I’ve let this get to me in the past when I know I shouldn’t because it’s not what’s important but I have felt as if my work isn’t good enough, that not many people want to read my posts as they must not be interesting or engaging enough. I bet as bloggers, we all get these thoughts spiralling around in our minds from time to time because again we chase perfection and when we don’t think we’ve reached that, we convince ourselves that our work isn’t good enough and that we must be doing something wrong.

    I think the lack of statistics is one of the things that put many bloggers off, as I said it’s not about numbers and that is in no way my reason for blogging but looking at posts’ stats and staring at that number of views that is less than 100 can be disheartening as I know it can for every blogger out there when they realise one of their posts or more than one of them isn’t performing so well or isn’t reaching the potential that they hoped it would.

    A photo of my macbook with miscellaneous beauty products next to it

    But do you know what? At the end of the day, none of  these things matters. All the cons and the negatives of blogging are outside forces, they’re not what’s important. What’s important is the positives, the fact that you love blogging so much that it doesn’t matter how many views you get on a post, if someone else’s blog is more popular than yours or if another blog is more polished.

    Yes, everyone has an end goal for their blog, a milestone they want to reach and an audience that engages in their posts but as long as you work hard and love what you do, you’ll soon get to where you want to be, it just takes time.

    Yes, there are times where I over think the cons of the world of blogging, times where I focus far too much on statistics but I’ve come to the realisation that in the grand scheme of things, these factors are so little compared to the long list of pros and the love I have for blogging.

    As I mentioned at the beginning of the post, it’s one of the best things I’ve ever decided to do and I wouldn’t change anything about it. It gives me the opportunity to express my love for writing, to do the things I love to do, to connect with people all around the world by hopefully educating others by talking about my experiences living with disability.

    I love writing about the things I’m passionate about, sharing my thoughts with the world and managing my own little corner of the internet which I’m so grateful for all of you to join me in.

    So that’s it, 1606 words later and my lengthy post is over. I know I went on a bit of a tangent and I probably haven’t covered half the things I wanted to say or made much sense in the things I did say but I hope you enjoyed this post nonetheless.

    Are you a blogger? Do you ever feel like you have a love/hate relationship with blogging/the blogging world? Let me know in the comments as I would love to hear from you.

    Thank you for reading as always.

    Elin x



    1. October 22, 2017 / 7:59 pm

      Loved reading this and totally agree. I think it’s such an up and down hobby. I’m definitely glad I started blogging but I so share some of the cons you mentioned. I think not putting pressure on yourself is key but hard to do as you said when you’re comparing yourself to others. Thanks for writing such an honest post. I’ve been a reader of yours for a year now and really enjoy your posts! x

    2. October 22, 2017 / 9:12 pm

      Girl, I can so relate with this love hate relationship!! I had a a two week break a week before my blog hit two year old this year. I didn’t realise until I started blogging today. It definitely is disheartening seeing the stats being low (especially since I’ve changed the name of my blog) but I realised that, that is not why I’m blogging. I love blogging with a pssion. Even if I lose all my followers, I would still be blogging cause I enjoy it. Lovely post as always! This is so insightful for those who do not blog and is so relatable for bloggers who’ve been blogging for a while xxx

      • October 22, 2017 / 9:22 pm

        I’m so glad you can relate! Yeah I completely agree, I’ve learned to look away from the stats now or not to check them as often because it’s not what’s important. Taking a break is something we all need from time to time. Your blog is amazing though and you should be so proud of it and I love your new name! So glad you enjoyed the post, thank you so much for reading as always xxx

        • October 22, 2017 / 9:40 pm

          Aw, thank you so much!! I love your blog to and you should be so proud of it to. It will always be one of my favourites xxx

          • October 22, 2017 / 9:42 pm

            That’s so sweet, thank you so much! Yours is definitely one of my favourites too xxx

    3. Lynne Nicholson UK
      October 22, 2017 / 8:41 pm

      I’ve no idea how you would make a blog (as a 56 year old technoflop) so I appreciate all the bloggers I follow and especially as my sightloss is relatively recent I find blogs by those with sightloss gives me hope that I can still have a fulfilling life.
      Thank you for letting me share your world.

      • October 22, 2017 / 9:13 pm

        I’m sure you could do it, if you ever decide to create your own blog and want some help/advice then don’t hesitate to get in touch and I’ll try my best to help. I definitely agree with you there, reading other people’s blogs is definitely inspiring and can make you feel less alone. Thank you for reading.

    4. October 22, 2017 / 9:09 pm

      I hadn’t blogged until today for 4 months. I ran out of motivation, inspiration and my blog slipped further and further down my todo list. I felt super guilty, but when I started this was meant to be a hobby and enjoyable and it was slowly becoming a chore. It’s glad to hear I haven’t been the only one feeling like this! Great post! 😊

      • October 22, 2017 / 9:17 pm

        I can totally relate to you! Blogging is definitely for the enjoyment so when you lack in inspiration it’s important not to feel guilty about it because I’m sure every blogger has gone through a similar phase and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s so much better to get back into it when you’re feeling inspired/motivated to do so again and it makes it so much more enjoyable which is the main thing. Thank you and thank you for reading 🙂

      • October 23, 2017 / 10:47 pm

        Thank you as always lovely. So glad you can relate xxx

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